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** SPICE UP YOUR LOVE-LIFE by Graham White **
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We work at developing almost every area of our life before we think about doing something to develop our love-life.

I used to joke about married sex when I worked as an entertainer at weddings.  In the classic song "Strokin" by Clarence Carter, the line "How long has it been since you've made love?" is asked.  I'd tell everyone to take a quick look around, "Notice all the married people looking for a calendar while all the singles are looking at their watch!"

Marriage brings stability and routine, and that's a good thing.  It can also bring repetition and boredom.  This often takes effect with the married love-life first.

After you've been married even just a couple of years, everything else seems to take priority over the bedroom.  After you have kids well, "Sex, what's that?"

Make a commitment to have a date night at least once a month.  You've heard it before, but decide it's important and set it up.  Once a week is even better, but you can work up to that over the year.

Don't just do the same thing every date, and don't make it something like a movie where you don't interact.  Find activities that the two of you do together.  

• Go for a walk.
• Go out to a lounge.
• Go roller-blading.
• Go dancing.
• Go shopping for lingerie.
• Go to a spa.
• Go swimming.
• Play a game.
• Go out for a fancy dinner.

You can send the kids out and take the phone off the hook if you're feeling like money is tight, but keep your date and make sure you do things to spice it up!

• Treat it like your first date where you're trying to impress!
• Shower and shave.
• Wear something stylish, something sexy.
• If you're hitting a hotel, pack your essentials.

It's your date, it's your fantasy.  You can take turns planning it if you want.  Agree that which ever one of you designs the date gets to plan there fantasy.

• Role play!  You can each be someone different for a night.
  • Pilot-Stewardess
  • Teacher-Schoolgirl
  • Two strangers at a bar
  • Biker-Biker Babe
  • Newlyweds
  • Honeymooners
  • Rock star-Groupie, 
• If he normally calls the shots, she can be in charge!
• Novelty:
  • Bring exotic food to the bedroom
  • Rent a sexy movie
  • Wear some wild lingerie
  • Begin making out in a different part of the house
  • Have an extra glass of wine
  • Bring feathers, ice love lotions or anything else your imagination can dream up!

You only live once!  Make the most of your life and don't forget that your love-life is one of the best parts!

Talk to your spouse about setting up your monthly Date Night tonight!  Who knows, the discussion may lead to a hot date itself!

Graham White    www.incrediblepotential.com 

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