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 Making A Woman Putty In Your Hands 

From the upcoming book "Men are Stupid, Women are Nuts" by Graham White
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As you probably already know, women are impossible to figure out.  As soon as you encounter an issue you disagree on, their "crazy gene" seems to take over and they begin asking you to do things that are humanly impossible.  

Instead of telling them how ridiculous what they're asking you to do is, use their weakness to your advantage!  If you understand how that crazy mind of theirs works, you can turn what looks like is going to be a fight into an evening of passion!

There are a few simple sets of words, that when said with genuine intent and affection, will melt her heart:

"I love you".

"I'm sorry honey."

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I'll give you a couple of examples:

You come home from work from a hard day and want to know that someone gives a damn about how hard you're working.  Instead, she tells you that you're ruining her day with all your complaining.  Instead of saying, "I do all of this hard work for you and all you can do is tell me off when I come through the door!" say, "Honey, I'm sorry.  I realize that I gave you the impression that coming home to you doesn't improve my day.  I love you and want you to know that the reason I'm willing to go through these challenges is to provide the best way I can for you.  It would help me a lot at the end of my day to be able to talk about what's bothering me, or to go spend some time alone.  Once I've done either of those, I can focus on how much I love you.  Do you think there is a way we could develop a habit like that?"

Your wife gets upset at the way you're dealing with financial problems.  Instead of saying, "What do you want from me?  I'm doing the best that I can.  Do you want me to work 16 hours a day so that I never see you just so you can be happy?  I'm sure that even if I did that you'd start complaining that I wasn't around enough!", say "Honey, I'm sorry.  I love you and want to be the best husband and provider possible.  I know that things are tough right now and I don't like it any more than you do.  I want to solve this together with you.  Let's talk about this, and if we can't figure it out or agree on a solution, let's agree to find someone who can help us sort it out."

 Giving Affection To Your Partner:  

• GIVE GENUINE AFFECTION: I know it's not a big deal for us to hear or say "I love you."  We don't really get why cards, flowers and gifts get such a giddy reaction from women (but we certainly used it to our advantage when we were dating!).  Women are just nutty that way, but if you want to keep them happy keep the affection flowing, even after you're married.  Fit in an "I love you" somewhere every day.  Remember every special date, even if it means nothing to you, and get her something that lets her know you still feel the same way you did about her when she decided that you were "the one". 

• APOLOGIZE EVEN IF YOU'RE RIGHT:  Men, I have to say that this is the one area that is most challenging for us to deal with and where women seem most nuts.  The secret to wrapping your head around it, even when you know that you're right is to find something that you can genuinely apologize for.  Say, "Honey, I'm sorry that I've upset you.  I want nothing more than to see you happy.  Can we talk about this so I can understand your position better?"  You didn't have to say you were wrong (when you know you're right), and she got the apology that is so critical to her sense of well being.

• TOUCH HER:  Again, another big challenge is understanding that when she is upset, she actually needs to bond before she can function as your partner again.  We men don't end confrontations with a hug, we simply have a sign of recognition that we're done and neither one of us still wants to punch the other, the danger has passed.  Not so with a woman, they're just nutty that way.  They want you to take their hand, hug them, hold them and show them that the crisis has passed.  Don't leave them alone to work through the crisis the way you would want to!  Make sure you have reaffirmed your love and affection for her in a physical way.

• FOLLOW WITH WHAT COMES NATURALLY:  Have you ever wondered about those couples that seem to fight simply to enjoy "Make-up sex"?  The most powerful aphrodisiac in the world is moving from a position of stress to a position of love and understanding.  This is true for both women and men.  The bond of closeness, affection and understanding that you have just developed is the same feeling you had when you "Fell in love".  Falling in love is simply a feeling that this person understands you like no other, that they will cherish and protect you and that even when no one else is there for you, they will.  If sex naturally follows the process (and that may be later on, not immediately following), she will begin associating the passion of your love-life with your commitment to work through problems.  Eventually, the sense that she wants to scratch your eyes out or divorce you when an argument begins will be replaced with the knowledge that you are the greatest husband in the world and what you want for her is to let her know that she is important and truly love.

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Want to put this to the test?  Tell your wife that you just read an article on what women want.  After she faints in disbelief, ask her if she would mind reading it to see if it's true.

Even if she reads this (hello women), and knows that you're using these techniques in what were previously confrontational situations, she can't help but respond positively to your genuine care and affection.  

Graham White    www.incrediblepotential.com 

Women, do you want to know how to make a man putty in your hands?  The secrets are here:  Making A Man Putty In Your Hands

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